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Freelance Writing Loneliness: You Are Not Alone

June 10th, 2016 · 9 Comments

Freelance Writing Loneliness

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No one knows for sure exactly how many freelance writers there are. That’s because new writers “open their doors” for business every day. It’s a sure bet, though, that there are thousands of us.

Even with thousands of fellow freelance writers, many of us feel isolated and alone. Why?

Working from home leaves us vulnerable to loneliness. While other family members trudge off to traditional work or school, many of us remain at home. For most of the day, it’s just us and our computers. No wonder loneliness is a problem for so many of us.

If you’re a freelance writer who is feeling lonely, know that you are not alone. Many other freelance writers have been through the same thing. In this post, I share three groups that you should connect with to help combat loneliness.

This post is part of my series on What Is the Worst Problem Freelance Writers Face?

Caution: If  your feelings of loneliness persist despite everything you do, you may need professional help. Don’t be afraid to turn to a mental health professional if you need to. This post should not be construed as professional mental health advice.

Group #1: Friends and Family

You may be tempted to work extra hours to get your business off the ground. Don’t do it if it means neglecting your relationships with friends and family members.

Healthy relationships are an important part of fighting loneliness. Invest time each day in nurturing your relationships with the people who are important to you. Do it even if they don’t understand freelancing.

Family members may be confused by your freelancing. This is especially true if you’re the first freelancer in the family. That doesn’t mean they don’t care about you. Plus, freelancing is more accepted than it was even ten years ago. Odds are that you’re not the only freelancer they know.

Spending time with family helps fight loneliness, but you may long to spend time with professionals as well.

Group #2: Local Professionals

What I missed most about not working in a traditional job was not being able to talk about work with colleagues. While your freelancing colleagues may not share an office with you, they are still out there. You just need to make an extra effort to find them.

To find nearby colleagues you need to engage in some face-to-face networking. One of my online colleagues, John Soares, has some excellent networking suggestions in his post on the Productive Writers blog, Where Smart Freelance Writers Network In-Person. John suggests networking at Chamber of Commerce meetings, BNI meetings, Meetup, through local service organizations, Toastmasters, or at Industry-specific groups.

In the city near where I live there are even groups that have formed just for networking. You can also meet colleagues by taking a class at a local community college, attending a seminar, or going to a trade show.

Even if you can’t find colleagues nearby, you can find online freelance writing colleagues.

Group #3: Join an Online Forum

If you live in an unpopulated area with few local professional groups, you may need to look online for peers. All you need to get in touch is an Internet connection.

Over the years, I’ve been a member of several online writing groups. At first, I joined free writing forums. Participants at those tend to come and go.

The two writing group memberships that I currently maintain are About Writing Squared and the Freelance Writers Den. While I don’t take part in them as often as I’d like to, those times I have participated they’ve been helpful. (To learn more about the Freelance Writers Den, read my review.)

Of course, there are many other online writing groups. The key is to find a group that is helpful to you.

Your Turn

How do you fight freelance writing loneliness? Share your tips in the comments.

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9 responses so far ↓

  • 1 donnaanddiablo // Jun 10, 2016 at

    It takes a conscious effort to get out and meet people, either virtually or in person, but I’ve found it to be very valuable. Freelance Success is another great group for networking and peer-to-peer contact and professional organizations such as ASJA offer ‘Peer to Peer Connections.’ I made it a business goal to have at least 2 networking meetings per month, just to get myself out of the office. 🙂 Thanks for continuing to share good information and ideas with the freelance community, Laura!

  • 2 Laura Spencer // Jun 10, 2016 at

    Hi Donna and Diablo,

    It sounds like you have a good, balanced schedule for getting out and getting to meet people. Thanks so much for sharing how you connect with others.

    The groups you mention are also good options for finding peer connections. Depending on niche, location, and interest–different writers will prefer different groups. 🙂

  • 3 johnsoares99 // Jun 10, 2016 at

    Thanks to linking to my recent post on networking, Laura. In addition, to following all of your excellent advice above, I also work in a coffee shop most afternoons. As a matter of fact, I’m in a coffee shop right now: Case Coffee Company just across the street from Southern Oregon University in Ashland, Oregon.

  • 4 Laura Spencer // Jun 10, 2016 at

    Hi John,

    A coffee shop is another good option for getting out of the office. Also, co-working set ups and hives can be helpful if you live near to one.

  • 5 annewayman // Jun 10, 2016 at

    Hey, Laura, thanks so much for the mention of our About Freelance Writing Forum… I love the forum because of who is there – the joys, frustrations, successes we all share.

  • 6 Laura Spencer // Jun 13, 2016 at

    Hi Anne,

    I like it because it’s great to share thoughts with other writers. And yes, the people who are there make a big difference too. 🙂

  • 7 Paula Hendrickson // Jun 11, 2016 at

    This will sound weird, but I have a non-confrontational talk radio station (WGN-AM, Chicago) playing in my office all day, except when I’m transcribing. I consider the radio personalities to be my virtual co-workers, which is easier than ever since you can interact with them on Twitter and Instagram, too.

    I’ve always freelanced, but have never felt isolated because of it.

  • 8 Laura Spencer // Jun 13, 2016 at

    Hi Paula,

    I don’t think that’s weird at all. I’ve also heard of people who have a TV playing in the other room just for the noise.

    Regular interactions on social media can help writers feel less alone. Plus, you can get a response back and a tweet is usually less invasive than a phone call.

    Thanks for sharing. 🙂

  • 9 What Is the Worst Problem Freelance Writers Face? // Aug 1, 2016 at

    […] Loneliness. You’re freelancing. You’re probably working from home. You may feel all alone, but it doesn’t have to be that way. There are ways for you to connect even if you don’t go to an office job every day. I’ll share some great networking opportunities for freelance writers in this post. […]